Letting Go Made Easier

In the previous post, Letting it Go and Never Give up, we say we need to let go of the uncontrollable bad and pains, cherish the good that we have now and never give up on the better significance that we are building. 

In this post, I want to address the first part of just "Letting Go of the bad and pains". How we can let it go with greater ease and willingness and lesser pains.

Parts of the answers for "Letting Go Made Easier" are in the "Cherish the good that we have now" and the "Building of the Better". Our focus is the key issue. If we just focus more on the good that we have now, and the better future that can have, it will be easier to forget the unchangeable and uncontrollable past of pains.

Could it be our "Ego" (Our "Face")

When we have something better, we can forget about the lesser things. However, often we choose to ignore the good and concentrate on the painful fully realizing the harm it could cause. On deeper reflection, it is our ego that refuse to let go. Our ego is hurt and we want justice at least, if not revenge. We want apology. We want ..... It is the 'I' that comes out all the time in our focus.

Know the Love of Father God
When we don't know that Someone else is caring for us and we are the only one to defend and fight for ourselves, life could be very scary. I think the solution to our pains and our letting go is to be fully aware and to experience the Love of the The Father and Jesus. Not in mind only but also in the heart. We can do a google search on "The Love of the Father, God" and find many verses. We need to meditate on them. We need to talk to Jesus about that. Here a few verses that mean much to me. You may have other verses.

• (Rom 8:32) Indeed, he who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all – how will he not also, along with him, freely give us all things?
• (John 14:1-3) “Do not let your hearts be distressed. You believe in God; believe also in me. 2) There are many dwelling places in my Father’s house. Otherwise, I would have told you, because I am going away to make ready a place for you. 3) And if I go and make ready a place for you, I will come again and take you to be with me, so that where I am you may be too.
• (2Cor 1:3) Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort 4) Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.

Darkness is part of the Journey to Maturity and Burning Away of our EGO.
The literature on Spiritual Growth tend to have a phase of adversity, darkness, struggles, a sense of loss as if God does not care. This is the wall of the Six-Stage model of "The Critical Journey" (A summary is here).

Even if we don't feel the presence of God, trust in the Jesus that changed not((Heb 13:8) Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever!) and fully let it go.

By loosing our ourselves we gain the New Life

(Luke 9:23) Then he said to them all, “If anyone wants to become my follower, he must deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me. 24) For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.

Replace the 'his life' with 'his ego' and we can understand better.

Let our  ego go. Don't worry about loosing face. We gain back more. Let them go. Controlling others to prevent our loss of face does not work. Eventually, we loose all, our face and the others.

Value things as Jesus value them. See things from Jesus view point. Focus our eyes on Jesus and see as Jesus see. Trust Jesus to take you through this darkness part of the journey in the new life.