- yield to the Spirit, led by the Spirit, Gal 5:18, live by the Spirit, Gal 5:25
- be filled with the Spirit, Eph 5:18
- abide in Christ, John 8:31
- put on the new self, Col 3:10
- Christ in us Col 1:27
The key in this abiding or yielding or following is that it is a process of discipline over a period of time and not once off. Abiding is built up over time; a seeking and the decision to follow, one at a time and over and over again over time.
This process will enable us to break bad habit, forgiving the 'jerks', and so forth.
But most of us blame God for not saving us at the time of need or temptation. The fact is that we actually have not been abiding in Him to build up the strength we need at the time of need. Chinese has a saying that "developing the army for a thousand days to be use at an hour".
If we think we are a failure, the problem is not with God. God has provided all the needs for us to be successful and victorious. We just need to put on trust and put His words into practice over time and not just once off or for only a few times.
Abiding and yielding is a process and is a building up over time. This is also call growth. See Christian Transformation & Growth -The Unified Model ...