BSS-Father How to be a Godly Father

BSS-Father How to be a Godly Father 

(go to Chinese 华文 text)

• 1 Leader of Family:
  • Fathers are called to be the leaders or heads of their families. They are to provide for their families physically, emotionally, and spiritually and also to protect them from harm.
  • Joshua 24:15: 
  • "But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord."

    # Father as Spiritual Leader of the family.

  • Psalm 103:13: 
  • "As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him."

    # Father loves his family

  • 1 Timothy 3:4-5
  •  "He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect."

    # As a good Manager of his family earning respect from all.

  • 
    

• 2 Build & Lead a Family Altar

  A time of Family Worship, Sharing, Prayers & Teaching

  • to foster spiritual growth and unity within your household.
  • dedicating time to worship, instructing children in the ways of the Lord, and fostering unity within the family. Have discussions, prayers, and reflections during your gatherings.
  • Colossians 3:16
    • "Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts."
  • Matthew 18:20
    • "For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them."
  • Exodus 20:24-26
    • You shall build an altar to me, and sacrifice burnt offerings and peace offerings on it. I will come to you and bless you if you obey my commandments and keep my statutes as I have given them to you.
    • 
      
• 3 Teacher & role model:
  • Deuteronomy 6:6-9:
    • "These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.

      # Father must first learn from God, the Heavenly Father.

    • Impress them on your children.

      # Teach & Live Out the Godly teaching.

    • Talk about them when you sit at home and
    • when you walk along the road,
    • when you lie down, and when you get up.

      # All the time

    • Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.

      # Use various methods to memorize and retrieve the Words of God.

    • Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates."

      # Write them in obvious places as reminders for all in the family

  • Proverbs 22:6:
    • "Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not depart from it."

      # Teach them when they are young.

  • Colossians 3:21
    • "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead,

      # Do not force it on them. Teach them according to their stages of development. Do not overwhelm them. When they get older they will learn it.

      The inability to learn creates frustration and hatred for the subjects.

    • bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."

      # So, teach according to their ability to absorb.

    • 
      

• 4 Provider:
  • Fathers are called to provide for their families financially. This means working hard to earn a living and being wise with their money.
  • 1 Timothy 5:8:
    • "But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever."
  • 1 Thessalonians 4:12:
    • "And to work hard and to be kind to others, to be generous and willing to share."
    • 
      
• 5 Husband:
  • Fathers are called to love their wives as Christ loves the church. This means being selfless, sacrificial, and committed to their wives.
  • Ephesians 5:25:
    • "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her."
  • Colossians 3:19:
    • "Husbands, love your wives and be considerate of them."
    • 
      
• 6 Disciplinarian:

  A Painful Act of Love

  • Fathers are called to discipline their children in a loving and consistent way. Discipline is not about punishment; it is about teaching children right from wrong and helping them to grow into responsible adults.
  • Psalm 127:3
    • "Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him."
  • Proverbs 13:24:
    • "The one who loves their children is careful to discipline them."
  • Ephesians 6:4:
    • "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

      # Punishment without loving care first will result in rebellion. Need to listen to their point of view and explain the reasons for the discipline. Later, reassure them of your love. Separate the wrong doing from the child.

  • Colossians 3:21
    • "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead,

      # Do not force it on them. Teach them according to their stages of development. Do not overwhelm them. When they get older they will learn it.

      The inability to learn creates frustration and hatred for the subjects.

    • bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."

      # So, teach according to their ability to absorb.

  • Proverbs 3:11-12
    • "My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in."
  • Hebrews 12:7:
    • "Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father?"
    • 
      
• 7 Friend:
  • Fathers are called to be friends with their children. This means listening to them, understanding them, and being there for them through good times and bad.
  • Proverbs 17:6:
    • "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity."
  • Proverbs 27:17
    • "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another."
  • See also Eph 6:4 & Col 3:21
  • 
    
• 8 Legacy & Heritage: Bless their Children
• Psalm 78:4
  • "We will not hide them from their descendants; we will tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of the Lord, his power, and the wonders he has done."

    #The best legacy is not money but wisdom - knowledge of God

• Proverbs 13:22
• "A good person leaves an inheritance for their children’s children, but a sinner’s wealth is stored up for the righteous."

  # Leave an inheritance for their grandchildren

• Proverbs 20:7:
• "The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them."
  # Genesis 27:4: Issac blessed ...Genesis 48:15-16: "Then he [Jacob] blessed Joseph...Deuteronomy 33:1: "This is the blessing that Moses, the man of God, pronounced upon the Israelites before his death."

• Prayer:
• Teach us, Lord, to be like you, as a loving Father with grace and wisdom. May we love our spouse and children with the love that you gave us. A love that spoils us not but with guidance and discipline for our development and growth. May we pass on Your Words by not just teaching but living them out for our children to see. May we be blessed to be able to live a legacy and inheritance for our children and grandchildren. May we be a light bringing glory to You. In Jesus' Name, amen.

Lim Liat (c) 18 Jun 23

================

读经分享1029 如何做个虔诚的好父亲 

1 家庭的领导者： 父亲被称为家庭的领导者或家长。他们要在物质、情感和精神上为家人提供支持，同时保护他们免受伤害。

• 约书亚记24:15：
• “至于我和我家，我们必定事奉耶和华。” #父亲作为家庭的属灵领袖。
• 诗篇103:13：
• “正如父亲怜恤他的儿女，耶和华也怜恤敬畏他的人。”#父亲热爱他的家人。
• 提摩太前书3:4-5：
• “他务要好好管理自己的家，使儿女凡事端庄顺服（或作“敬畏”），因为人若不能管理自己的家，焉能照管上帝的教会呢？” #成为家庭的良好管理者，赢得全家人的尊重。

2. 建立和引领家庭的祭坛 家庭崇拜、分享、祷告和教导的时间

• 以促进家庭的属灵成长和团结。在家庭聚会中进行讨论、祷告和思考。
• 歌罗西书3:16：“当以基督的道理丰丰富富地住在你们心里，用各样的智慧彼此教导，用诗章、颂词、灵歌，谢主，用恩感颂赞神。”
• 马太福音18:20：“因为无论在哪里，有两三个人奉我的名聚会，那里就有我在他们中间。”
• 出埃及记20:24-26：“你要为我筑一座坛，就要在上面献燔祭和平安祭，羊群、牛群都可以献在那里。凡我要赐福给你的地方，我都要到那里赐福给你。我若在那里为我名召唤你，你就要为我筑一座坛，不可用凿成的石头为你的祭坛，因你用凿成的石头篡改了它的原样。”

3 教师和榜样：

• 申命记6:6-9：
• “我今日所吩咐你的话都要记在心上。 也要殷勤教训你的儿女。无论你坐在家里，行在路上，躺下，起来，都要谈论。也要系在手上为记号，戴在额上为经文，又要写在你房屋的门框上，并你的城门上。” #父亲必须首先从上帝、天父学习。
• 把它们铭记在你们儿女的心上。#教导并践行神的教导。
• 无论你坐在家里，行在路上，躺下和起来时，都要谈论它们。#无时无刻
• 把它们系为记号在你们的手上，戴在你们的额上。#使用各种方法记忆和回想上帝的话语。
• 也要写在你房屋的门框上，并你的城门上。#在显眼的地方写下提醒全家人的话语。
• 箴言22:6：
• “教养孩童，使他走当行的道，就是到老他也不偏离。” #当他们年幼时教导他们。
• 歌罗西书3:21：
• “父亲，不要惹儿女的气，恐怕他们失了志气。” #不要强迫他们。根据他们的发展阶段教导他们。不要压垮他们。当他们长大后，他们会学会的。不能学习会导致挫折和对学科的憎恨。
• 当你们教养他们时，要以主的训诲和警戒为准。 #因此，根据他们吸收知识的能力进行教导。

4 供应者： 父亲被呼召为家庭提供物质支持。这意味着要努力工作谋生，并明智地管理金钱。

• 提摩太前书5:8：“人若不看顾亲属，就是背了真道，比不信的人还不好。”
• 帖撒罗尼迦前书4:12：“又叫你们在外人面前行事端正，自己也有所需用。”

5 丈夫：父亲被呼召爱妻子，就像基督爱教会一样。这意味着要无私、牺牲，并对妻子忠诚。

• 以弗所书5:25：“丈夫们要爱你们的妻子，正如基督爱教会，为教会舍己。”
• 歌罗西书3:19：“丈夫们要爱你们的妻子，不可苦待她们。”

6 纪律者： 一种痛苦的爱的行为

• 父亲被呼召以充满爱和一贯的方式管教他们的孩子。纪律不是关于惩罚，而是关于教导孩子分辨是非，帮助他们成长为负责任的成年人。
• 诗篇127:3：“看哪，子孙是耶和华所赐的产业，所怀的胎是他所给的赏赐。”
• 箴言13:24：“不忍用杖打儿子的，是恨恶他。疼爱儿子的，随时管教。”
• 以弗所书6:4：“你们作父亲的，不要惹儿女的气，只要照着主的教训和警戒养育他们。” # 没有爱的纪律只会导致叛逆。需要倾听他们的观点，并解释纪律的原因。随后，向他们保证你的爱。把错误行为与孩子分开。
• 歌罗西书3:21：“父亲们，不要激动你们的儿女，免得他们失了志气。” #不要强迫他们。根据他们的发展阶段教导他们。不要压垮他们。当他们长大后，他们会学会的。不能学习会导致挫折和对学科的憎恨。
• 希伯来书12:7：“你们所受的苦，是作儿子的神管教你们；焉有儿子不被父亲管教的呢？”
• 箴言3:11-12：“我儿，你不可厌烦耶和华的管教，也不可厌恶他的责备；因为耶和华所爱的，他必责备，正如父亲责备所喜爱的儿子。”

朋友： 父亲被呼召与他们的孩子成为朋友。这意味着倾听他们，理解他们，并在好时光和困难时刻与他们在一起。

• 箴言17:6：“子孙是老人的冠冕，父亲是儿女的荣耀。”
• 箴言27:17：“铁磨铁，磨出刃来；朋友相感，领悟事理。”
• 另见以弗所书6:4和歌罗西书3:21

传承与遗产：祝福他们的孩子

• 诗篇78:4：“我们不向他们的子孙隐瞒，要将耶和华的美德和他的能力，并他奇妙的作为述说给后代听。” #最好的传承不是金钱，而是智慧 - 对上帝的认识
• 箴言13:22：“善人给子孙遗留产业，罪人为义人积存资财。” #给他们一个坚实的基础，好让他们在生活中取得成功。
• 箴言 20:7： “义人过着无可指摘的生活；他们的后代是有福的。” # 创世记 27:4：以撒要祝福孩子......创世记 48:15-16：“然后他 [雅各] 祝福约瑟...... 申命记 33:1：“这是上帝的仆人摩西对他死前的以色列人。”

祷告：

    主啊，教导我们像你一样，作为慈爱的父亲，带着恩典和智慧。愿我们用你给我们的爱来爱我们的配偶和孩子。一种不会宠坏我们的爱，但会为我们的发展和成长提供指导和纪律。愿我们传递您的话语，不仅要教导，还要让我们的孩子们看到。愿我们蒙福，能够为我们的子孙留下一份遗产。愿我们成为荣耀你的光。奉耶稣的名，阿们。